Today was one of the hardest days I had as a mother. Harley hit a new level of temper tantrums. Anything we did, just resulted in ear shattering screams and tears. Asking her a question, she would respond no daddy no daddy no daddy. No one could get her to stop. The screams and meltdown kept coming. Today was a day I questioned my sanity. Why did this day happen on a day that I’ve only slept 5 hours?
This was a day I felt like I could give up. Motherhood is hard. Motherhood makes me want to crawl into a little ball at times and sob my eyes out. It is a challenge. It is tiring. It is defeating at times.
Although this entire week has been hard. Full of challenges including health scares, I know I was given Harley because I could handle it.
When the going gets rough, take a deep breath and know that you can handle it. You are a good mom no matter the amount of meltdowns your child has in a day. You are a good mom if you cry on the toilet while your daughter bangs on the bathroom door. You are human. Your child loves you unconditionally even if in the moment it seems like they don’t.
After a morning like today, I realized that mothers need to lift each other up. Motherhood is meant to be shared with others. It’s meant to make you laugh, feel a little crazy and be the toughest battle of your life. You are in charge of raising a competent individual who can survive in the world long after you have left. You are raising a child to be independent, to have a voice, to stand up for what they believe in, and to be kind and compassionate to others.
So as your child screams bloody murder in a restaurant, smile and laugh. Because every child has done it. When your child falls and scrapes their face, give them love and reassure them that it’s going to be okay. And when they finally nap after a hell morning, rejoice because you might not have another quiet moment for the rest of the day!
Chin up mommas! We got this!